If anyone from Social Services happens to be reading this book, might I make a plea? Time after time, I hear from women, usually in tears, who tell me about the extreme stress that they feel from dealing with Children’s Social Workers. The power that they have threatens one of the most integral parts of someone’s life – their status as a parent. I am well aware of the statistics regarding sexcual abuse within the home and the potential for online offending to be an indicator of contact abuse. I am also aware that service budgets and personnel hours are monstrously overstecthed and there just isn't the time to oversee someone's family life and risk potentila adequenty. This is where I have seen Social Workers make decisons to tell the woman to leave her husband or pr=artner or they will reemove the chld. it's simpler that way. I also know how frightening must be the prospect for the social work department who has bene sene to have failed to act preventatively when a CSA case does come to light.. WHat happens to the attachment mechanisms within that bay's brain/ WHat are the ramifications of that? They will be lifelong.

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What I see, though, is the trauma of mothers on medicaton, sometimes several at one, because of the trauma of thier child being removed, sometimes at birth. 

 

What happens to children who, as part of being treated as if their father/grandfather/father-figure is a danger, are left without the practical potential threat but with the psychological damage that comes from the absence? I am by no means advocating for a more laissez-faire attitude, but one that takes into account all a child’s needs. I hear it very often, mothers saying that they feel like they and their children are being punished.