Onto the Threshold

If clearing out pornography is like decluttering, let’s start with stepping onto the threshold of this house that needs tidying. Let’s take a look at what rooms pornography has spread into.

What would happen if you wrote down all the ways in which using pornography has caused harm? Start with harm to yourself, then others. You can take the circle as wide as you want. There are calls for pornography to be labeled a ‘public health crisis’ in the States, where they are taking it a lot more seriously than we do in the UK.

As we begin, I’d like you to start becoming self-aware. There will be aspects of yourself that you are so used to that you have never questioned. We can get into the habit of going about our daily lives not being mindful of our reactions, attitudes, beliefs, norms etc. Did you inherit certain ways of being that feel like they are just how things are? What if those were things that didn’t leave you in the best position to be all God intended for you to be? Jeremiah 29:11 says:

Some Starter Questions

How long do you spend watching pornography in a month...a week…a day?

Does your pornography use prevent you doing other things?

What role has or does pornography play in your life?

What do you enjoy about pornography?

Have you noticed any negative effects from using pornography? The prompts here might be useful.

If you have tried giving up pornography in the past, what has gone wrong?